Serena Nanda fails to write an impartial argument for arranged marriages versus "love match" marriages like those in the United States. She neglects to present the positive aspects of choosing a partner for marriage opting instead to keep the focus on the negatives. Her argument for arranged marriages is weak and unfocused leaving the reader to doubt her logic. In her attempt to persuade the reader to supporting arranged marriages, she actually emphasizes the negative effects of them. Reading Arranging A Marriage in India, strengthens the idealistic values of romantic love and exposes the flaws of arranged marriage including the extreme limitation of potential partners, inexperience and ignorance of the people, excessively traditional and sexist…
In chapter thirteen, Susan J. Ferguson talks about arranged marriages and how love come from that. I have mix feeling about arranged marriages because it could either go a bad way or you could find the person of your dreams. One of my best friend is from the middle east and that is somehow acceptable or common in her culture. But from what she has tell me is common but not everyone does it because in her religion you cannot force someone to get marry. However, her family does not have any arranged family between them, it depends on your family traditions. In America, we do not have arranged marriages. We go by who we love,does not matter they passes life, family or financial status. Something that people who believe in arrange marriages see.…
Myers et al., (2005) studied individuals in India living in arranged marriages and found no differences in marital satisfaction in comparison to individuals in non-arranged marriages in the US. This is also supported by Gupta and Singh (1982) who studied 100 degree-educated couples living in India, 50 of who had chosen their partners and 50 of who had their marriages arranged for them. The couples were asked to indicate how much they liked/loved their partners and it was found that love and liking was high in love marriages but decreased whereas love increased in arranged marriages and after 10 years exceeded love marriages. However, this study is difficult to generalise as it studies only a small sample and so cannot be generalised to the wider population. It therefore lacks validity.…
The actual definition of an arranged marriage is a marriage that is established before a lengthy relationship. So in a sense, it is the opposite of a love marriage, where marriage would be considered the final step for a relationship. This study is based on Arranged Marriages, but including; the difference of forced Marriages, traditional marriages, where it occurs, what is being done about it and how it can affect your life. These are the main areas I will be trying my hardest to investigate on.…
Modern western cultures believe in the dream of “Happily ever after” marketed to us nonstop in the media. It is believed that “married couples should be best friends, sharing their most intimate feelings and secrets. They should express affection openly but also talk candidly about problems. And they should be sexually faithful to each other.” Emotional happiness seems the ultimate goal. A happy marriage is defined differently throughout the world, but only recently have the emotional and sexual needs of the partners become emphasized .This formula seems exotic and exceptional when compared against a historical world view.…
In the arranged world, they say marriage comes first and love later. Arranged marriages for the previous generations were arranged solely by the parents. The boy or girl probably wouldn’t even see each other before the wedding, depending on the parents. Arranged marriages are done all over the world, but were first introduced in the eastern countries. From data that was collected in 1989 from China found that, “The number of arranged marriages, in which parents have absolute control, has decreased” (Riley). Arranged marriages are not so prominent now how they were in the past. Arranged marriages now-a-days mainly takes place between wealthy families to keep high status within. Western countries, such as Canada and the United States of America, believe In a dating system that consists of seeing many different people to choose a compatible mate which they will marry in the future (Sharma). Arranged couples living here in the United States see that Western societal and cultural pressures differ from their homeland, which is why some won’t ask their children to accept an arranged marriage. In western society of course, arranged marriages are often looked down upon as being “Old fashioned” or out of date. With a number of traditional African cultures and Asian cultures, it is common for women to have their mates already selected for them by both the women’s and…
In the article “I’m Happy with an Arranged Marriage” by Gitangeli Sapra it discusses her view of arranged marriages. Ms. Gitangeli is for arranged marriage, she stated that people who get married for “love” has a 40% rate of divorce. She also states that arranged marriages have a lower rate of divorce for the fact that the couples do not want to start a wrath between their families.…
Forty-five individuals (22 couples and 1 widowed person) living in arranged marriages in India completed questionnaires measuring marital satisfaction and wellness. The data were compared with existing data on individuals in the United States living in marriages of choice. Differences were found in importance of…
An arranged marriage is a way of uniting and maintaining the difference between the rich upper class society and the poor lower class society.…
Marriage was synonymous with maternity. But the pain, the suffering, the wrecked lives of women and children that such a system caused, show us that it did not work successfully. Like all other professions, motherhood must serve its period of apprenticeship.…
13-* Marriage and Its Discontents Great majority of individuals marry at least once 40 to 50% of first marriages in US end in divorce – Post-divorce decline in economic circumstances – Emotional and behavioral difficulties for children Theories of marital harmony and discord – Disillusionment model: Romantic notions dashed – Maintenance hypothesis: Romantic couples work to maintain illusions and therefore marriage – Social exchange/behavioral theories: Marriage fails when problems become overwhelming, or because of inadequate for coping – Intrapersonal models: Attachment and temperament explain marital success or failure Broderick & Blewitt, The Life Span: Human Development for Helping Professionals, 4th Ed. 13-* Marriage: Keeping Love Alive Existing models do not adequately explain success …
Arranged marriages are able to last because "the integrity, values and belief system of the family guide them." (Habib, K16) "Ninety five per cent of all marriages in India are arranged. It's believed they are more successful than marriages in the west (the divorce rate is as low as five per cent, a fraction of the rate in North America) because real love flows from a properly arranged marriage union between two people and romantic love does not necessarily lead to a good marriage and often fails once the passion dissipates." (Habib, K16) Love is learned as the ties to the marriage partner grow. Passionate love is a poor foundation on which to base a life-long partnership.…
Arranged marriages are also common in Hindu society. In an arranged marriage it is the elders of a family who decide the bride or the groom for their children. Although earlier this was done without the consent of the bride, that culture is changing now. In today’s society the bride and the groom usually meet a few times and then come to a decision about whether they should marry. Even now it is usually the elders of the family who first find out about the prospective bride or groom and then introduce them to their children. Arranged marriages are fixed after looking in various aspects of the potential bride and groom like their education, wealth, social standing, caste and astrological compatibility.…
In the past when talking about marriages, more specifically arranged marriages your parents could force you to marry someone and you would stay in that marriage even if you were unhappy. As times are changing, more and more people are looking for that special one person that makes them so happy they want to spend the rest of their lives with them. For some people they get it right on the first try, but with others it takes some time after the marriage to realise that they made a mistake and quickly decide to separate or divorce their spouse. Other people just stop loving the person they married altogether and that is when the marital problems start.…
So , if I on their situation I would prefer arrange marriage than love marriage it is because we can get a lot in arrange marriage. We can focus more on family view. . Since the wishes of parents and family members are considered or even followed when choosing a partner, there will be less danger of quarrel and discord within the family. Above all, arranged marriages are less about passion and romance and more about starting a family. They will start to know each other so that the love will occur slowly and will last forever till the end.…