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Love Behind Bars

Love Behind Bars
To begin, we must answer the question on why do women have the intense urge to be a wife. As young girls we are taught to desire becoming a housewife, catering to our mates, and the basis of being a mother. There are certain unscripted standards women must abide by and pass on to their daughters; these are considered “The Girl Rules”. Some of these are the soft blanket; boys will be boy’s girls WILL NOT, the training wheel, its okay to cry (7).
“The Soft Blanket” Being raised to be a woman you are taught many things. Such as to be dependent on a male, he is the head of the household and the bread winner. Show a man that you need him even if you are physically capable to handle a job if a man offers to accomplish the work for you allow him…that’s “lady-like”. Allow a man to feel like he belongs, boost their confidence when needed and allow them to have the last word. Simply put be their comfort when needed, their warmth when wanted, and remember as a female you are placed beneath them and used when ready.
“Boys will be boys and girls WILL NOT” Stay in a females place, your taught this in society throughout life. Do NOT take big risk, that is a man’s job, the most a women must decide is whether to cook chicken or beef for dinner. Women should not apply themselves physically and being “butch” or a “tom-boy” means you’re a lesbian or have a mental defect. Do not play a tough role, remain feminine, keep your self clean at all times, and in order. Women are always being looked at by society, ready for them to make a mistake. As some may put it “Remember to always dot your I’s and cross your T’s. Stay on top of you P’s and Q’s.” You never know who’s watching you; you may find your husband and a father to your children. Be wheeling to talk out your problems with others do not solve your problems with physical action.
“The training wheel” Women are meant to be seen not heard, you are placed behind the “Big Wheel”....