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Handling Disagreements

Interpersonal conflicts are interactions between individuals when there is a clash of ideas or interest. Every person handles these conflicts in a different way. Some people will stay quiet, and just try to put a stop to the fight. Others won’t say what they are really thinking, but instead say what they think their partner wants to hear at that time. Then there are people that handle conflicts the way that I do, by being straight forward with the person that you are fighting with. The saying he/she didn’t “sugar coat it” that is the attitude that I have when it comes to a disagreement. I always feel like I should be able to say what is on my mind. Otherwise nothing in my relationships will be in my best interest. I am open with the way that I feel, but I take the other persons feeling into consideration. Although I know that I am not always right, I just express the way that I am felling at that time. This way there is no confusion, I just come out and tell him/her how I am feeling using cognitive labeling, so I can put words to my emotions. In an argument this method is usually effective, mostly because my partner doesn’t have to wonder what I am thinking.
If I know that a conflict is going to occur between me and someone else I would be asking myself many questions. The first thing is that I would be trying to figure out a way to resolve the problem without any conflict at all. If I couldn’t think of an effective way to solve this I would then ask myself a few questions about how I’m going to handle the situation. How does this person react is fights? Where will this argument occur? How strongly do I feel about this issue? What good points am I going to make to defend what I believe in? These are all questions that I would think about if I knew that a conflict was ahead of me.
When I think of my communication style I am very high in Affective Orientation. I’m very aware of my emotions and this is why I use them so often in my day-to-day...